Health & Fitness
Parenting Children and Young Adults with Special Needs: Personal Boundaries and Sexuality Issues
Here are some resources to help you teach your children how to set personal boundaries and deal with sexuality appropriately.
All children need to learn how to establish personal boundaries. All children need to learn how to appropriately deal with sexual feelings. This is challenging to do for parents of any children, but when the children have disabilities, it can seem almost impossible. A few months ago, I attended an excellent parenting
workshop on sexuality education for children with disabilities. The workshop was given by Parent 2 Parent of Long Island. They give this and other excellent workshops periodically. They can be reached at 631-434-6196.
No matter how old your children may be, as soon as you are able, you must teach them how to respect personal boundaries. They need to know what is private and what is public. They need to know how close they get to another person without getting into trouble They need to know how to protect themselves from predators and they also need to know how to avoid being perceived as a predator. Fortunately, there is help available. Certainly, you should speak with your child’s pediatrician and other appropriate health care providers for advice. You should speak with your child’s teachers, school psychologists and therapists. Personal boundaries education should be on your child’s IEP.
LOCAL RESOURCES:
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There will be a symposium in Manhattan on October 25th on the subject for
professionals who deal with disabilities:
http://www.ujafedny.org/event/view/disabilities-symposium. You might want to pass this along to the professionals who work with your teenager or young adult with a disability.
ACDS: http://acds.org
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Cohen Children's Center: http://www.northshorelij.com/ccmcny/ccmcny-our-services
SCO Family of Services: http://sco.org/our-core-services/developmental-disability-services/
The Cody Center for Autism and Developmental Disabilities offers sexuality education groups: http://stonybrookneurosciences.org/The-Cody-Center.html
United Cerebral Palsy: http://www.ucpn.org/index.php/site/services/
Variety Child Learning Center: http://www.vclc.org/
Wrightslaw Yellow Pages: http://www.yellowpagesforkids.com/help/ny.htm
ONLINE RESOURCES:
Sexuality Education in General:
Teaching any children about sexuality: http://special-needs.adoption.com/children/teaching-children-and-youth-about-sexuality.html and http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/parents-sex-ed-center-home
Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United
States Bibliography: http://www.siecus.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=page.viewPage&PageID=580&varuniqueuserid=29040321298
and Position Statement:
http://www.siecus.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=Page.viewPage&pageId=494&parentID=472
General Resources on Sexuality Education for
Children With Disabilities:
Human Sexuality Education for Students with Special Needs http://www.ejhs.org/volume10/MarshMedia%20White%20Paper.pdf
National Dissemination Center for Children with Disabilities http://nichcy.org/schools-administrators/sexed
Sexuality Education Resource List: http://www.med.umich.edu/yourchild/topics/disabsex.htm
Teaching Your Student Social Skills:
LD Online: http://www.ldonline.org/article/21025/
Protecting Children with Disabilities from Sexual Abuse and Assault:
Head Start: http://eclkc.ohs.acf.hhs.gov/hslc/tta-system/teaching/Disabilities/Staff...
Sexual Abuse Victims with Disability: http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/sexual-abuse-victims-with-disability.html
Autism:
Autism.com http://www.autism.com/index.php/understanding_social_sexual
LoveToKnow Autism http://autism.lovetoknow.com/autism-sexuality
and http://autism.lovetoknow.com/Sexual_Behavior_and_Asperger_Syndrome and http://autism.lovetoknow.com/Special_Issues_for_Autistic_Teens
Monarch Center for Autism:
http://www.monarchcenterforautism.org/adulthood/sexuality
Blind, Deaf, Deaf-Blind:
Deaf-Blindness
http://www.nationaldb.org/ISSelectedTopics.php?topicID=897&topicCatID=20
Developmental Disabilities and Down syndrome:
American Academy of Pediatrics position paper on sterilization of minors with developmental disabilities
http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/104/2/337.full
American Academy of Pediatrics related to developmental disabilities http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/118/1/398.full
American Association of Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities: http://www.aamr.org/content_198.cfm and http://www.aamr.org/content_154.cfm
Down syndrome http://www.ndss.org/Resources/Adolescence-Adulthood/Sexuality-Down-Syndrome/
Florida Developmental Disabilities Council http://www.albany.edu/aging/IDD/documents/parentworkbook.pdf
I found this book especially helpful: Teaching Children with Down Syndrome about Their Bodies, Boundaries, and Sexuality (Topics in Down Syndrome), by Terri Couwenhoven.
Well thought out and appropriate comments and questions are welcome.